Wisdom of the Tribal Elder with Dr. Don Kilhefner

Today’s guest is Dr. Don Kilhefner.

I wanted to interview Dr. Don Kilhefner because his name and accomplishments show up nearly every time I do work on elevating Gay Male Existence. He’s a living icon of gay activism.

In his 80’s, he is still a dynamic force in the gay community. As you will hear in this episode, it’s a community he considers family.

Dr. Kilhefner has a remarkable amount of energy, vision, experience, and wisdom he generously offers to his family on a daily basis .Another guest, who has done and keeps doing amazing things for the gay men’s community. Let’s heed his advice to know ourselves better, so that we may serve our community better. 

Because of the COVID-19 threat, this episode was done over Zoom, so you will notice some sound quality issues. I ask that you focus on the content and forgive the sound quality as we all learn how to adjust. 

I hope you enjoy listening as much as I enjoyed having the dialog.

We talked about: 

• Who is Don Kilhefner? [04:37]

• Boy Energy vs. Man Energy vs. Elder Energy [12:19]

• Spirituality and Queer Contributions [21:50]

• Heterosupremecy and Privilege [27:38]

• Masculine Archetypes and Gender in Culture [35:32]

• Investing in Your Dignity, Family, and Queer Gifts [46:50]

• Advice for Starting a Revolution [49:29]

Resources mentioned in this episode: 

• On Human Nature by E.O. Wilson

• The King Within by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette

• “Gay Adults Where Are You” on White Crane

• Radical Faeries

• The Hero's Journey

• Los Angeles LGBT Center

• Van Ness Recovery Center

• Proposition 8

• Alpine County Project

Find more about Dr. Don Kilhefner at: 

• Dr. Kilhefner's Facebook page

• Instagram profile

• Twitter account

• Or directly by Email

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